Arbel
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Post by Arbel on Dec 10, 2004 19:35:04 GMT -5
your walking along the street , you just had nice litle booty call , your feeling happy and then it happens . you see your ex .
with her new boyfriend, and then it hits you like a pick up truck on an innocent puppy , just how much you missed her, how lonely it feels when shes not there , how much your realy love her , and then she looks at you , right in the eyes , with that look that makes you wana cay . that look that says " fu*k you i'm happy now "
and right then your MP3 player plays a realy sad song , you feel like your trapped in a realy bad 80's movie and you cant get out .
that night you cant sleep too good , so you call a frined , you go and buy some cheap bottle of vodka and drink untill you puke , hopeing to puke out that part of you that lets her get you like that . hopeing the alcohol will burn out that part of your heart that feels for her .
that was my last night floks . nothing left form it but a head ache and some heart ache .
turns out that the distance donst bother her too much with her new boyfriend.
just had to let it out .
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Post by xenabeachgirl on Dec 10, 2004 19:52:21 GMT -5
My sincerest sympathies for what you're going through, Shadowboy. I had a similar situation last year, after my bf dumped me and started seeing someone else, and I had to hear all about it from my friends, and see him/them around town (it was a small town). I couldn't believe he was seeing her; she was such an ugly witch and all. I drove myself crazy for months obsessing about him, trying to get answers as to why he couldn't make it work with me. (I was crazy in love with him, even though I knew he didn't love me; I would have married him and done anything for him!) I would even pull up his pics on Yahoo personals and cry over them, and feel sorry for myself. Every time a sad song came on the radio I'd start crying again, and wondering "why". It was awful. Try not to let it eat you up inside, Shadow, because it WILL if you let it. And booze won't do any good; I've tried using it to dull the pain and it doesn't work at all; you'll still be thinking about her and how much pain you're in even if you're totally plastered, and all you'll do is feel like sh*t later. It's not worth it. Hang in there, buddy, try to forget (without the booze) and distract yourself from thinking about her. She is your past......... YOU DESERVE BETTER!! Eventually, if you're lucky, you'll just wish her happiness with whomever she finds it with, and she'll be nothing more than a chapter in your life that's now closed.  |
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Arbel
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Post by Arbel on Dec 10, 2004 19:56:46 GMT -5
thanks ....it realy means alot to hear those kind words
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Post by xenabeachgirl on Dec 10, 2004 19:57:53 GMT -5
you're very welcome.....I wish you all the best!!  |
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Post by GerryT on Dec 10, 2004 19:58:33 GMT -5
Wonderful advice, Xena. Booze makes things worse, not better. Seen that first hand.
Feel sorry for what you have both been through. Was there myself.
Hang in, Shadow. Sometimes things happen for the best and unexpectedly. You will meet the real Ms. Right and the ex will just be a memory. Good luck.
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mrclean
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Post by mrclean on Dec 10, 2004 20:07:58 GMT -5
Hey shadowboy it is a really s**t thing to go through but there is a reason why everything happens.It is hard right now to try and figure out why it happened but someday you will look back and laugh at what happened. Who knows if she is really happy she may have been feeling the same way you feel.There may be a time down the road that you two may end up back together and it may work better the next time. There are plenty of other girls out there and I am sure that you find one and be happy. You got the booze thing out of the way and now is time to pick yourself up and move forward. Good Luck and try to be positive.
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Post by Tim Wescott on Dec 10, 2004 20:21:45 GMT -5
Good advice given by all! Shadow,failed relationships were a big trigger for me to pick up the old bottle and drown my sorrows,I ended up drinking for 33 years...........not good. It felt great until the smoke cleared, and the hangover went away,then I was still in the same old boat!  I think most of us will, or have gone through similar situations.........and they suck bigtime,but it will pass if you hang with positive people,stay straight,and resolve firmly to get on with your life!! :Rocker Dude: Once you meet a new girl,and you definately will,you`ll feel great..................get out and live bro,you are too good of a guy to beat yourself up over someone who is already with another guy!! Good luck my friend, and stay strong! |
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Post by ifearnoman on Dec 10, 2004 21:29:36 GMT -5
your walking along the street , you just had nice litle booty call , your feeling happy and then it happens . you see your ex . with her new boyfriend, and then it hits you like a pick up truck on an innocent puppy , just how much you missed her, how lonely it feels when shes not there , how much your realy love her , and then she looks at you , right in the eyes , with that look that makes you wana cay . that look that says " f**k you i'm happy now " and right then your MP3 player plays a realy sad song , you feel like your trapped in a realy bad 80's movie and you cant get out . that night you cant sleep too good , so you call a frined , you go and buy some cheap bottle of vodka and drink untill you puke , hopeing to puke out that part of you that lets her get you like that . hopeing the alcohol will burn out that part of your heart that feels for her . that was my last night floks . nothing left form it but a head ache and some heart ache . turns out that the distance donst bother her too much with her new boyfriend. just had to let it out . Is that the girl you just broke up with? damn bro....I am sorry IM me if you want to talk about it man.... |
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Arbel
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Post by Arbel on Dec 11, 2004 3:25:06 GMT -5
thanks people , i realy needed that support .
i'm feeling a bit better now , i guess she just cought me off guard a bit .
realy thank all of you .
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Post by Liftingchic on Dec 11, 2004 3:38:31 GMT -5
Cause i am so sorry hun... I wish i could fix it... But i can't  ... just hang in there... Ms Right will find her way to you real soon.. |
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Arbel
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Post by Arbel on Dec 11, 2004 9:40:05 GMT -5
once again thanks to all of you
things seems a bit better now.
just it was a bit too much with all the drama in my life so i kinda broke down a bit .
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Post by ifearnoman on Dec 11, 2004 9:41:11 GMT -5
once again thanks to all of you things seems a bit better now. just it was a bit too much with all the drama in my life so i kinda broke down a bit . understandable man...my offer is still on the table if you need it |
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Post by Jesse on Dec 11, 2004 10:22:27 GMT -5
I remember when my first wife left for a 19yr old kid that we both worked with... he was a dumb punk to add to it. Her father and brother both beat the kid up, I got sh*tefaced daily (along with drugs, lots of em) and drowned in my own sorrow... it sucked. I once saw them walking into a coffee shop I would get my coffee from daily and they were holding hands and laughing until they saw me. I had been up all night and was ticked already and the poor boy was there, he got the beat down and she realized that he was truly a spinless pu**y because he didnt stand up for himself. That didnt help either, I was still in the same emotional place and it sucked because I was really in love with this girl and commited my life to her, truly. After various girls visiting my bedroom I was still in a hole and after about 5 months a lightbulb went off.... there is someone better out there and if I let myself get over this she will come. She did, about a month later. I had sworn to never marry again and look at me now. Married, kids, a picket fence, a dog, a business, a happy soul and I am happy for my ex, no matter what her choices are. She is married to a good guy, has a little kid along with the daughter she had when we were together and is living in another country.
After the book I just wrote, my advise to you is. Out of sight, out of mind... if you see her, smile and know you are strong. Dont go where she goes. Find your buddies and live it up. Spend time with the family, they will be happy to see you. Take your frustrations out on the barbell... they like being thrown around. And most of all... there is a better girl out there that will make you feel like you are flying!!! The sex will be perfect, she will be able to cook the perfect meal, you will bask in her beauty and love her smile and the way she smells. Sit tight, she will come!
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Post by GerryT on Dec 11, 2004 10:55:24 GMT -5
I truly respect you, Jesse. You went through emotional
hell and landed on your feet. Bravo.
Not many would have the strength to express what you did so candidly. Glad that you are happy now, bro. You deserve it.
Blessings always.
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Post by Jesse on Dec 11, 2004 11:20:59 GMT -5
Thank you Gerry, you are the best!!! People go through some sort of emotional hell at different points in their lives... What else can a person do but accept it for what it is and move on with it and use it as a tool in a toolbox, so to speak. Relationships have always been a hard one for me... I cant seem to stay out of them for too long, all my buds give me sh*t for it too  |
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Heckman
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Post by Heckman on Dec 11, 2004 11:56:24 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about this..Not much I can add to this one...I can truly feel your pain..It does suck and it will pass with time...Great advice about the booze as well! If I thought for one minute that drinking agian would bring back my dad, my brother and my first wife, I would run Jack Daniels into bankruptcy...
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Post by xenabeachgirl on Dec 11, 2004 13:29:11 GMT -5
I truly respect you, Jesse. You went through emotional hell and landed on your feet. Bravo. Not many would have the strength to express what you did so candidly. Glad that you are happy now, bro. You deserve it. Blessings always. My sentiments exactly too, Jesse. You have a lovely way of expressing your thoughts and experiences, and using your past painful situations to help others. |
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Arbel
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Post by Arbel on Dec 12, 2004 0:42:51 GMT -5
realy thanks to all of you
it helped a great deal
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Post by xenabeachgirl on Dec 12, 2004 1:36:44 GMT -5
When it gets bad, Shadow, turn to your friends and family. That's what we're/they're there for. My friends helped me survive a hellish year in '03; I don't think I would have made it without them..... .....then, before they knew it, they were getting ready to be my bridesmaids!! I'm glad you're feeling better......and as others have said, the iron is always there for you!! |
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Jadethegladiator
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Post by Jadethegladiator on Dec 12, 2004 22:08:41 GMT -5
Shadowboy, Hang in there! All of us have been there in one way or another. I look back at my life sometimes, so many heartaches but then again so many outstanding moments. Just remember, what doesn't kill ya will make ya stronger. I strongly believe that there is a plan for each of us & everything happens for a reason. Keep smiling! Jade |
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... just hang in there... Ms Right will find her way to you real soon.. 
