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Post by Mystic79 on Jan 8, 2007 20:37:03 GMT -5
When it rains it pours, for both good and bad things. I had a pretty good 2006 as far as refocusing my life, getting back in shape and finishing grad school.
However finding a job is very difficult. I hate interviews, I hate applying, and I hate waiting. I feel I am pretty qualified, but my record is not clean. I have been turned down many jobs because of it. It's not a huge thing (misdemeanor), but in my field (mental health) it is looked down upon. I already have a job but it's very slow since I'm just starting. I have to build a client base and that may take months. Meantime I have bills to pay and things are pretty desperate. I LOVE what I do but nobody gives me a chance., I know if I had a chance to prove myself they wouldn't regret it, but how do I do that without getting my foot in the door?
I'm having trouble REALLY going out there, being confident and looking for a job. I tend to get down on myself and remain inactive. I pray for strength to move forward, and be active. I know if/when I find a good job (that is salaried so I know what I'm earning) my life will get better.
Well, Just wanted to vent to you all. Thanks for listening, and if any of you are religious please say a prayer for me. I'm going through a rough time (heh seems like one rough one after another).
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Post by Tim Wescott on Jan 8, 2007 21:13:12 GMT -5
Hang in there Jay,things will get better,you just have to get through the hard times.
Personal training is the best thing I ever did for myself,though I don`t have anywhere near as many clients as I had in Massachusettes.
Money is tight,and I have other problems as well,so it never gets really easy........life happens!!
Stay strong!!
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Post by Rich on Jan 8, 2007 21:48:32 GMT -5
Times like this, it's hard to see the bigger picture. But years of living and watching have shown me that if you do what you love with sincerity and diligence, it always pays off, because it's so rare to find people who are genuinely passionate. Eventually, people notice those who are.
Keep at it.
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Post by mrbeefy on Jan 8, 2007 21:51:04 GMT -5
Jay,
Yo Bro! Don't be so down on yourself. Go back and read what you read. Man, you have so many things going for you already. Job interviews are a pain in the butt, but look at them like working out in the gym. At every interview, try to learn something, prepare for it like a workout. See the interview in your head before you go. Be brutally honest with the interviewer. You wouldn't cheat on your reps in the gym, right? Don't cheat yourself out of how great you really are!
And when you get to the gym, and don't feel like hitting that workout, you go anyways right? And you hit it hard. You don't quit! You continue to persevere day after day. That's how you make gains. Apply that to your interviews!
When a Japanese sword maker makes a samurai sword, they place the blade into fire, and heat it, pound it, bend it over on itself, heat it, pound it again, over and over and over. THAT is what makes the blade strong.
Jay.........you are the sword being born....you are feeling that heat, but it WILL make you stronger. It will make you the best you can be. It will make you invincable.
Among other things, I'm an ordained Catholic Deacon. I've been on sabbatical for two years, because I have a few issues with church politics, and I wanted more time with my family and passion for the gym. So I will keep you in my prayers..........not that you will need them..........because you will OVERCOME!
Peace bro!
Frank
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Post by RUBICON19 on Jan 8, 2007 21:52:55 GMT -5
Do what you love and be the best at it.... Dont let ANYTHING stand in your way.
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Post by Mystic79 on Jan 8, 2007 23:48:09 GMT -5
I guess I just always compare myself to others. People at my age are already established in their jobs for a couple of years and have homes and families etc. It's kinda hard because I've been battling so many personal problems that I seem to drag behind everybody else.
I know the bad experiences have definately made me a stronger person, but sometimes it feels like the pains never end. One thing after another, but then again that's life.
Mr. Beef you are wise! I never thought about comparing my situation to lifting weights. You know, I do NOT have good genetics for strength or for having a lean physique, and for many years I was disappointed because I didn't look like everybody else in the gym, nor did I have the strength... Anyways the moment I started working out at home and compared myself to ME, I made good gains. My strength is going up and I am more knowledgeable than ever about nutrition. I guess life is the same way, you fall down, you get up, you adjust then you go at it again. It's just hard to keep going at it.
And that's another thing, I'm glad you mentioned your Catholic. I, too , am Catholic, and it makes life harder because most people are not, and the world is the opposite of Catholic ideals/beliefs. So I am constantly being tempted and tested and I feel sort of like an outsider sometimes.
But that's a whole nother story, I really appreciate you guys and the support you give on the board. I guess putting it into perspective my life has improved alot over the past year, so I can't expect everything else to fall into place. Having the knowledge and perspective comes first, then you put that into action. Right now I am trying to find ways to be an ACTION-oriented individual. I'll admit I can be very lazy and discouraged, but now is the time to work for what I want, I just need to find motivation. For lifting, it's easier to find motivation.
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Post by tiffany on Jan 9, 2007 9:52:45 GMT -5
Hang in there and stay true to yourself. It may take some time but you have your foot in the door and now it is up to you. You can be positive and work hard to open that door wide or doubt yourself and allow your foot to slip out. In the mean time you could look for a part time job to supplement your income (just make sure it does not interfere with your goals) and review your expenses to see where you may be able to cut back a bit until things pick up.  |
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Post by masterschamp on Jan 9, 2007 10:17:40 GMT -5
Life is what you make of it.
Keith
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Post by GerryT on Jan 9, 2007 12:31:40 GMT -5
All you can do is live your life a day at a time. Just stay alert for job opportunities. Unfortunately, interviews are difficult but grit your teeth and do what you have to do. That's what we all do.
I'll say a prayer and hope the best. Tough it out, Jay. Be the best you can be and have faith and confidence in yourself.
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Post by Karrie on Jan 9, 2007 12:43:53 GMT -5
Times like this, it's hard to see the bigger picture. But years of living and watching have shown me that if you do what you love with sincerity and diligence, it always pays off, because it's so rare to find people who are genuinely passionate. Eventually, people notice those who are. Keep at it. Good post!!!!!  It is very difficult to see the big picture when one is right in the middle of tough times.....hang in there...keep doing what you are doing and things will get better for you!!!! One thing I have learned...which many here may testify in their own lives, is that, when we get through the tough times we would not change it b/c it is a HUGE learning experience and we are able to help others out in their time of need. |
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Post by RUBICON19 on Jan 9, 2007 13:00:43 GMT -5
Life is what you make of it. Keith YES |
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Post by Tim Wescott on Jan 9, 2007 13:16:51 GMT -5
Jay,I tend to look back and think about all the years I wasted drinking heavily and I get depressed about it at times............it`s a big regret for me.
Lately,I`m leaning towards trying to think more positive and I guess I`m pretty lucky to just be alive as I knew so many people who used to do the things I did,and they are long gone.
We can look at dogsh*t,or we can look at roses,the choice is ours!!
All we have is today,there are no dress rehearsals so try to stay positive and just do your best,you are in competition with no one and you need no elses approval.
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Post by beckie on Jan 9, 2007 16:36:26 GMT -5
Jay,I spent the best part of 10 years locked in an anxiety disorder and watched all my friends build careers,travel and get married and have families. Needless to say there were(and still are) times when I get down or depressed. Now that I am back at 90-95% I am so different to all those people who went down the road of conventionality. I'm not saying theres anything wrong with that,but having been through what I have,I know those things may not be in 'my plan'. Do not feel bad because you are different or things are tougher-those of us that go through hard times invariably come out alot stronger whether we want to or not. I always have difficulty with maintaining a client base-that is the nature of the fitness industry and it has given me a much thicker skin. Try not to be concerned with those that reject you,they have their reasons and soon enough someone will see through the things you have been through and give you a shot! Hang in there buddy |
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Post by Mystic79 on Jan 9, 2007 18:09:18 GMT -5
I guess we've all been through our own hell, huh? I think that's why you guys are so dedicated as athletes, family members, and in what you love to do. If everybody got what they wanted and didn't work at it, how much would we really appreciate what we have? I guess that is the way I gotta be looking at it.
Tim, I applaud you for conquering alcohol. I had a problem before, but I don't think it was as bad as yours. I really admire someone for changing their life and turning from a destructive and abusive lifestyle to that of health and life.
Beckie, GerryT and all the rest you guys are truly inspirational! Now I'm not a trainer, nor am I a professional/amateur bodybuilder, but I can certainly understand the dedication hard work and positive attitude it takes to do what you guys do. I guess it does make us stronger if we've been through tough times., but as you guys said it's hard to see it when we are going through it.
Thanks again all! I will keep you guys posted on what's going on. I think I need some patience, prayers, and the right attitude.
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It is very difficult to see the big picture when one is right in the middle of tough times.....hang in there...keep doing what you are doing and things will get better for you!!!! One thing I have learned...which many here may testify in their own lives, is that, when we get through the tough times we would not change it b/c it is a HUGE learning experience and we are able to help others out in their time of need.