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Post by BigMikeReed on Jan 20, 2007 23:34:18 GMT -5
Hello guys!
Today my wife joined my gym. She has started an exercise program of her own and usually works out at the gym at her office building at lunch (best time for her). She needed somewhere to workout on occaisonal weekends so today she went in to my gym with me and signed up at MY suggestion.
Afterwards I had mixed emotions... my gym time is kind of "my thing" or "my time" I get for myself. Now, we will probably RARELY be there at the same time as one of us need to be home to look after our child. Also, she will only be going on weekends.
Are my feelings selfish and stupid?
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Post by youngblood on Jan 20, 2007 23:48:26 GMT -5
Personally, I do not think your feelings are selfish. Everybody needs a little "me time" here and there. For your wife, it may be the nail salon, reading a book, or going out with the girls. For you, it's the gym, working on your car or maybe taking care of your daughter. No biggie, I would feel the same way. The first response I was going to type-being a smartass however, was "My condolences!" but I decided against that after reading your post thoroughly. If you're rarely going to be there, then I really wouldn't worry about it. But I'm sure she's had her same thoughts about this and/or something else. Sleep well, but I do not think you're being a "pig" about this.  |
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Post by RUBICON19 on Jan 21, 2007 11:05:23 GMT -5
Dunno.. Jen and I rarely get to train together anymore. I have too many clients at night when she goes. We realy miss training together and we hope to be able to get back on a schedule in the future. She started as my client, then became my training partner, then my WIFE! Show's how good of a training partner she was. We motivate each other very well. |
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Post by ntrllftr on Jan 21, 2007 11:30:53 GMT -5
I would love for my wife to go to the gym with me but there is no daycare. I don't think it is selfish to have "me time" at least your not at the bar watching football and drinking beer.
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Post by mrbeefy on Jan 21, 2007 11:34:43 GMT -5
First...Congrats to her for joining your gym. ANYDAY in the gym....is a good day! Now, make the best of all of it. You will work out the details as they go. My wife and I have been working out together for over 3 years now,,,,sometimes at home, sometimes at the gym. She has been doing my BB workouts with me for a couple of years, and now is working with her own trainer preparing for a powerlifting contest. To be honest, I miss her as my traning partner  BUT, we are still there together, and share our day and thoughts of what is happening in our workouts, so it's all good. There are a lot of couples in my gym. Some come in together, some you never see together. Perfect example today....SHE came in early...did her workout (female BB), as she was walking out the door, her husband came in (PRO male BB) to do his workout! Whatever works best for you guys...........is cool. END result....you are BOTH keeping in great condition!!! Looks like a good thing to me! ;D |
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Post by masterschamp on Jan 21, 2007 12:14:06 GMT -5
Mike, It'll be cool as long as she realizes you are there for YOU, not HER, when it comes to the gym. If you can't meet your training goals working out with her, explain that to her, and if she's understanding at all, she'll know where you are coming from. You both can be in the gym at the same time doing separate workouts. Anyway, with the child care issue, it doesn't sound like you guys will be there much at the same time anyway. Like Randy said ...some couples actually enjoy training together. Find what works for you and just communicate with your wife. Personally, I have NEVER worked out with my wife.....my training is so intense that it would just be a distraction.......I NEVER train with ANYONE now ( never really have) exactly because of that. I think I have had 2 occassions over all the years where someone wanted to train with me....neither lasted more than 3 days!! Never would see them again after LEG day!!!  ;D Keith |
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Post by youngblood on Jan 21, 2007 12:15:35 GMT -5
Dunno.. Jen and I rarely get to train together anymore. I have too many clients at night when she goes. We realy miss training together and we hope to be able to get back on a schedule in the future. She started as my client, then became my training partner, then my WIFE! Show's how good of a training partner she was. We motivate each other very well. The only woman in history to lift the "Inch Dumbbell" huh? ;D |
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Post by sapphire on Jan 21, 2007 12:16:00 GMT -5
I can understand. The gym is your own time. Chris and I always work out together, we motivate and push each other. But that is us. Just relax and don't feel guilty, you may end up loving working out with her!! ;D
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Post by BigMikeReed on Jan 21, 2007 13:54:31 GMT -5
My wife knows I work hard at it but I think when she saw me train yesterday (and as she continues to see me train) she sees for real how dedicated I really am.
Sounds like it'll work out fine!
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Post by RUBICON19 on Jan 21, 2007 15:22:21 GMT -5
Dunno.. Jen and I rarely get to train together anymore. I have too many clients at night when she goes. We realy miss training together and we hope to be able to get back on a schedule in the future. She started as my client, then became my training partner, then my WIFE! Show's how good of a training partner she was. We motivate each other very well. The only woman in history to lift the "Inch Dumbbell" huh? ;D #bbarbellsmiley4dr# |
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Post by beckie on Jan 21, 2007 17:25:35 GMT -5
I'm one of those individuals that likes 'my time'-if I don't get it I get irritable and can't focus on my workouts. if my significant other was in the gym and not training with me,I would somehow feel distracted by their presence because I am not good at zoning out during training.
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Post by Karrie on Jan 21, 2007 20:21:01 GMT -5
My hubby and I worked out together 4 times a week prior to our two kids...I have to admit sometimes we did butt heads but the majority of the time we did fine. BUT now we go opposite times b/c of the kids and I enjoy it better. I get my gym time and he gets his gym time...it works perfectly. Things work differently for each couple. See what happens...like you said she watched you work out and she will gain a whole new perspective and respect for you...which is always awesome when you are married!!!!  |
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Post by Rich on Jan 21, 2007 21:49:12 GMT -5
Sounds like it will be fine. She'll rarely be there when you are, and when she is, even if she isn't watching, you 'll feel like she's watching all the time .... which is bound to up your intensity as you try and show her how hard you work! I bet you'll like hearing praise and comments from her as she gets glimpses of this "other" part of you.
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Post by tiffany on Jan 22, 2007 11:16:12 GMT -5
Awesome to see that your worries are being put to rest. Your feelings were neither stupid nor selfish. My boyfriend and I live an hour apart so we don't get to train together too much. I am not able to lift right now but when I did I enjoyed going to the gym with him. It was a perfect balance, I still got "My Time" as well as "Our Time" with the added benefits of the extra motivation and encouragement.
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Post by Intensity on Jan 24, 2007 15:19:43 GMT -5
It doesnt happen very often, but i'm more than happy when my girlfriend and I have the chance to train at the same gym! We do not train together, but are in the same gym… which is good because we can encourage each other once or twice during our workouts! Since we have the same schedule and gym, it also allows us to talk together just before and after the workout… and i'm always looking to spend more time with her… sometimes life get so busy that it's hard to find some more moments with Marie-Eve! So if she dosent disturb you during the workout because she is not motivated… i cant see how it could be a bad thing… Enjoy! |
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