Franks post about his wife got me thinking about females in general and how our self esteem is influenced by different factors:
If we have low self esteem,no amount of compliments will work to satisfy us. If we do not like ourselves we will not respond positively to any feedback. Our libido is intricately tied into our self esteem-if we feel depressed/fat/insecure in any way,our libido will probably be low/non existent Our hormones also play a strong influence in our self esteem-PMS is a particularly bad time and I'm sure most of the ladies on here feel depressed/fat or negative during this time. Stress is also a major factor in our libido-if we feel we are having to do 'everything' in the house plus look after the kids and hold down a full time job,you can bet your boots sex will not be high on our list of priorities
Beckie :0 Being on the "other side of the fence", I understand what you're saying. As some support for the guys, we are not ALL jerks, and do understand where you're coming from, although we do forget easily, so gentle reminders help! I think being married for 29 years gives me a "little" credability here, to say that, I try to support my wife through all these times, and I know that sometimes, there is nothing I can say or do to change how she feels, except to try to be there, be helpful, be understanding and ALWAYS loving her. SO I guess my 2 cents would be: Whoever your signficant other is, be there for them with an UNCONDITIONAL love. Listen with an open mind, and be empathetic, not sympathetic. AND....if all else fails...buy them jewelry!!!! (that will either get me an "atta-boy" or verbally slapped around!)! Ladies? Comments?
It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog.
Well I guess Kiwi men are retarded because us Kiwi women generally don't get treated that well,never had jewelry,last flowers so long ago I can't remember...I just want respect so it seems I need to shift countries to get it??