Outside Influences, Stress and BS~Another Rant!

[mrbeefy]

Well, another brief rant!

Stress tends to get us to do things, we "normally" wouldn't do.
The below situations have strssed me to the max this week, and are blowing my BP off the charts.

Situation #3
Sister came in to visit last weekend. After her normal attempt at religous conversion to me, she "advised" me angrily (in public no less) to be careful of the e-mails I send, because I forwarded her the e-mail about the dog being euthanized posted here, and she took "offense" to it. Then on Monday, my only outlet was to make it to my Zumba class by 5:00 pm. Before we left I indicated I need to be back before 5:00 pm. AFTER taking her to dinner, she HAD to stop at a store (30 miles away) to "browse". End result being we didn't get home until 6:10 pm. It wasn't so much that I missed the class, but her sarcastic attitude about it. She left to go back to Texas. I was SO pissed off, I totally threw my diet out the window Monday night, and ate everything in site. NOT HAPPY.

Situation #2
Job. Work piling up. Alleggedly a "Team Environment", yet no one assists when I'm out. I'm expected to know everyone else's job on the team and do their job when they're out, but it is not done in return. SO pissed off, took the rest of this week off. NOT HAPPY.

Situation #3 (icing on the cake)
Took my grandaughter to the gym to be evaluated for a Program they have there for kids (She did outstanding). While waiting for my wife to finish up her workout with her trainer, a "Gym Employee Trainer", appoached me about my grandaughter being "near" (about 5 feet away) from the equipment (safety issue and totally understandable), BUT we previously cleared with the gym manager that she would be with us. What is she supposed to do, sit in the car? It was not so much the employee's words, but his attitude in his approach. His volume and choice of words were embarrassing to me and my grandaughter, and dripped with a "holier than though" attitude.
I shut him down verbally and was very aggressive with him (not in my grandaughters presence, of course). I was about two steps from tearing him in half. Last words to him were to "shut the f@3$ -up, we have a communication problem, and I'll finish this with the Gym Manager on another day". I also advised him to stay very far away from me. Some of my response may have been wrong, but situations #3 & #2 had already sparked a fire that was on low boil. NOT HAPPY.

In my younger years, none of this would have affected me, but as I get older, I'm having a lower treshhold for BS.

I storm was brewing.

When a storm is on the ocean, the surface water is violent and turbulent, but the water on the ocean bottom is serene and calm.

My waters need to be deeper, like in the old days.

Sorry for the length of my "rant", but I know that the people here could understand.

As always, open to your comments, and THANK YOU for being here.

Frank

[GerryT]

Hear you, Frank. Been through some similar stuff. Stress can make us do things we would not ordinarily do.

We all give into it, but we have to give ourselves a cool down period. Nothing or no one is worth our health. Life will go on after we are gone.

A good friend of mine kept a plaque on his desk with the Latin Saying, Illitgitimi Non Carborundum. English translation, Don't let the b*st*rds. I keep that thought in the back of my mind and it helps somewhat.

Stress is part of life, and we need to learn to manage it as beneficially as we can. I know I still have things to learn.

Be good to yourself!

[mrbeefy]

Thanks Gerry!

You're correct!
I went to Zumba and had a good workout, then talked with the gym manager about my encounter with his trainer. The story he got from the trainer was that a "7 year old kid was playing on the machines" NOT that an 11 year old athlete, with 3 trainers and adult supervision, was standing near a machine. He aplogized with the end result that he will change my grandaughters age to 12 in their computer. Under their house rules, 12 year olds can work on the equipment in the gym under adult supervision.
He further mentioned that this specific trainer, although well intentioned has a problem with dealing with people. so it's all fixed. No problem.

So, with time and communication, things CAN get better.

Thanks for your kind input, as always!

Frank

[intenceman]

Frank, its understandable. I would lose patience too. Just take some deep breaths and keep your focus on your long term goals and self interest.

[mrbeefy]

Calming down a bit.

Taking the week off, concentrating on my diet and workout. Getting focus, etc.

so far...so good.

[Rich]

We all have those times Frank. And family members have a special way of getting under our skin (though I must say ... what could she have found offensive?).

Take the week off, have fun, train hard and enjoy life!