Date ideas?

[beckie]

thats great to hear! the opposite sex is confusing for all of us you know
As for a late night date,if you don't want anything too intense,how bout hitting a jazz club or maybe get one of those tandem bikes and cycle together before the movie??

[mrbeefy]

how late night are we talking?

[Mystic79]

Beckie,

What is a tandem bike? Sounds like some good healthy exercise, which she loves too. She's always working out, and is a bit of a health freak, which is a good thing.

Beefman,

7pm we are going out.

[Intensity]

Wow Jay, your thread is like a soap to me ;D

Seriously, good luck… i know it may sound cliché, but activities aside, just be yourself, have fun, and dont be affraid to tell her your feelings, what you really think of her!

Mo

[mrbeefy]

Mystic,

Dinner:

Again....use your imagination.........
Perhaps a little card that says something about being friends, hoping for more, type of thing.....make it a "Hallmark" moment!
Write something personal inside...." I am so happy you called back!" ...or something like that. Sneak it onto her side of the table, or just plain old hand it to her at the right moment.

Perhaps a little gift.....nothing extreme, don't want to scare her off, but again, use your imagination........perhaps a scarf......tell her, " I just wanted you to have something to wrap around you and keep you warm, when I'M NOT around!" It was so soft...it reminded me of you!"

After........movie?...if so, make it a DVD at..her place? your place?
Let her pick the movie.
Make it cozy.....arrange "everything". Snacks, lighting, music, anything you can think of.
(now I know it's the 21st century, and that this goes without saying, but......don't forget condoms.....sorry...gotta think ahead, just in case!)

Out and about after dinner? Nice walk, weather permitting. Hold hands? Talk about her. What does she like...not like? Compliment her when appropriate, but don't go overboard...they know when your sucking up! (You have got GREAT eyes!)

Stay away from cliche's. "If I told you that you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?" Blah!

Feel it out. Sonner or later, you will click....or not.
If so....don't forget to ask for the NEXT date.
"When can I see you again?"

If/when you take her home, and she invites you in for "drinks"/coffee...........you ar IN baby!

Breathe.....................take it slow..................and..........

Good luck!

[mrbeefy]

By the way....a tandem bike is the old "bicycle built for two".

[RUBICON19]

mrbeefy said:

By the way....a tandem bike is the old "bicycle built for two".

You may see the likes of Tim and Gerry ridding one of these around town

[Mystic79]

Beef,

More great ideas! And don't worry I try not to do anything cliche or cheesy as far as one liners go. I'm generally very playful, cheerful and humorous, though.

I absolutely LOVE walks., mainly because you get to do something interactive together, and the environment changes depending on where you walk, so it gives you something to talk about. Plus you aren't face to face with the person for a long time, so it makes it less stressful and relaxed.

I never thought about the note thing. Again I think once we are in a relationship I will kick start those ideas. I am trying to not scare her in the beginning stages. I've been known in the past to be too upfront and too passionate which can be a good thing once I know the person, but bad in the beginning stages.

I'm also definately digging the movie thing, although I want to take her to a play or musical! I think it's alot different and exciting and a bit more classy. I am NOT dissing movies, I absolutely love them (I'm a bit of a movie buff actually), but I think you hit the nail on the head talking about the environment, lighting, snacks, atmosphere, etc.

Basically our dates are alot of question asking, and getting to know each other. Sort of a feel out stage to see if we are good match. She's alot more level headed and mature than any girl I've ever dated. I'm a bit of a child at heart, and usually I go for a girl a few years younger than me whose very peppy and talkative. Again, can be a good thing, but going out with someone mature can even oneself out sometimes.

I will definately keep you all posted! I haven't decided 100% on what we're doing, but definately take her somewhere nice to eat, then maybe a walk, or a movie or a play, or something different. Actually I even thought about putt-putt golf? haha

[Mystic79]

Haha Ruby at the Tim and Gerry statement. We need pics!!! lol

[Sal Paradise]

Mystic -
I am neither psychic or a genius - just a little of both.

Seriously though, I have been there and on both sides of that phone call so it just makes sense to hold tight and see.

As far as the next date, well have fun and like others have said - be yourself.
Personally I would not even mention the call back or make any big deal about it. It can seem needy to a degree. Let here tell you why it took so long IF she wants to.

I like putt-putt golf but haven't been for years. That can be great fun!

Just take it easy and don't jump too far too fast.

Have fun and see where it goes.

Maybe in a few more dates, if it's meant to be, you can get some of those cheezy pictures taken and post up pictures of this certain someone we all tune in to read about!

Have fun and good luck - well you won't need luck if you just be you. Then she take it or leave it but at least you were honest about who you are.


Sal

[mrbeefy]

Good ideas Sal!
I like your train of thought!

Mystic....

Be yourself...have fun...go with the flow...all things you already know............you had the best idea..............talk.....learn about each other.........likes.......... dislikes......a relationship is about planting seeds to see what will grow, and what won't. It's all about communication. If you can communicate now, and in 30 years....you'll have a relationship based on unconditional love....and that my friend...is what it's ALL about!

Be spontaneous.........our prayers and hopes go with you!

Side note:

After nearly 30 years of marriage, my wife always wanted to play putt-putt...but I never took her.
I took her last year.....on the first hole.....I got a hole in one (total luck). I told her that's why I waited so long............didn't want to show her up! She never asked to play again!

Here's hoping you get a "hole in one"!
Everybody get your minds out of the gutter now!!! ;D

[Mystic79]

#smileygreatpost0av# From everybody, especially the Beefmeister and Sal! By the way Sal, did you ever get to watch Robocop? Remember there is a great line in that movie that has YOU in it. ;D

Yeah I didn't get upset at the fact she returned my call the next day., heck she didn't even mention that., so maybe it was a test. I really don't know. I just shrug it off and pretended like nothing was wrong.

Basically I'm just being myself and asking alot of questions, and the good thing is she is doing the same thing with me. I think she's being a little cautious, with good reason, we're both in our late 20s and basically are sick of the games and emotional rollercoasters that goes with dating, especially if the people are immature. Now, she hasn't flat out said that, but that's my perception of the situation at least. I'm sick of games, and immaturity and I am into REAL people. By real I mean people who are genuine and authentic and care about other people. Also people who are open minded and nonjudgemental. Maybe that's why I love WOTW, you guys come from different parts of the world, train differently (some for BB shows, some for health, others powerlifting), but we all learn and listen from each other. That's basically the kind of relationship I want with a woman.

She has been VERY swamped and busy at work., I'm actually suprised she still wanted to do something this weekend. She's working 10 hour days and gets off of work late. I'm thinking of doing something or going somewhere which is relaxing so she can forget about all the stress from work. So I'm still all about the interactive part, but at the same time I don't want to overwork her if she's already tired. hehe.

I got a couple of days to plan, but I am convinced everything will go fine. Gives me a couple of days to see what's going on in my area, and maybe plan something for that night.

I am a bit reluctant to talk about personal values/beliefs because I'm afraid she'll have totally opposite ones and it won't work. Eventually the discussion will come up, but I'm really really dreading it. I consider myself fairly conservative as far as values go, and she may be the opposite just based on what she has told me. Politically speaking we've discussed our values but I don't hold those nearly as high as moral values.

Of course, whatever happens you guys will be the first to know. It's nice having people root for ya. #bconfetti2sq#

[mrbeefy]

CHEERING SECTION:

GO Mystic...........GO Mystic..............GO Mystic
It's your birthday..... (sorry had to day that!)

Even if she doesn't know it yet, she is a lucky girl. You have already, without knowing, taken a very important step.

You are caring for her, by not wanting her to be stressed, and offerring her something to relax and take her away from her work stress. That's an important realization for you, and means you DO care for her greatly (she must be hot!.....sorry)

You are on a fantastic journey.......breathe it in with her...and enjoy the ride! (ok....stop it ya'll...that is NOT what I meant!) ;D

[Sal Paradise]

mystic79 said:

By the way Sal, did you ever get to watch Robocop? Remember there is a great line in that movie that has YOU in it. ;D

I haven't seen the movie since you told me about it but I did several searches for Quotes and such of the movie, I even found a site that had the script, but it was an abbreviated version and I still couldn't find it!

Oh well, maybe I'll get a chance to check it out again soon.

How did the date go?


Sal

[Mystic79]

This date went ALOT better than the last. I felt she was more herself (as was I) and was more outgoing this time around. I have to admit I wasn't 100% sure if I liked her at first but last night totally changed it. I surprised her and took to her to her favorite restaurant in town and we had a drink, ate and had wonderful conversation. She was laughing more this time and our conversation flowed a lot better. Still have not completely talked about our beliefs, but it seems we have a lot of the same things in common. I tried to be a little more affectionate this date, but not go overboard. I don't want her to think I have an ulterior motive so I made it tasteful and pleasant yet still establish that I really like her.

I was going to do something like a comedy club, long walk to see Christmas lights, etc, but the weather was cold and rainy (eventually turned to snow/sleet)., so we went a movie she really wanted to see, and it all worked out great!

She gave more hints this time around about how she liked everything, so I'm not so much in the dark now. I'm still not going to get super excited yet, it's still in the early dating stages, but so far a proper foundation is being laid! (nah not that kind, get your head outta the gutter haha) However I think if I keep being myself and nothing really bad is revealed or discovered than I will keep it up!

We have sort of the same health goals too; keep working out and try to eat better! So it's kinda fun because she's introducing me to great places to eat which are healthy!

[mrbeefy]

Mystic!

Glad to hear that you will "keep it up!"

hahahahahahahah!!!

Happy for ya bro!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

[Mystic79]

With the Beefman on my side cheering for me, I can't go wrong! hahaa, you too buddy. Hope yours is safe and relaxing but most of all FUN! ;D

[beckie]

Thats great it went well-I think the slow steady approach gives everyone some breathing space!

[Mystic79]

LOL same ole sh1t, not answer or returning phone calls. . Just to clarify I am not smothering her, nor did i call the next time, I am giving ample time in between calls/dates. The first time I can understand (she had sort of a BS excuse), but doing the same stuff the next week? Grow up please. It was fun while it lasted but hell, I'm 27 and sick of these childish games I think we're at different stages. She's still eager to play the game and mess with peoples emotions, and I'm maybe too real for her., she's still caught up in the game. She's probably dating 2 other guys. Maybe she'll call tomorrow but unless it's something legitimate she blew her chance, that's just flat out rude not to return a call the same DAY., especially if you like the person. I've learned a valuable lesson from all this : age doesn't always = maturity. Some women LOVE the game and the power/attention it gives them, so why give it up until the very late moment? Now maybe I'm a bit cynical and it's the new years celebration of beer talkin, but that's my take on the situation. Something doesn't seem right and it's not on my end. I'm always honest and upfront.

Next please!!!

[beckie]

there are always going to be women out there like that,I know some myself and I'm in my mid 30's. Unfortunately some have a bunch of stupid rules they think they have to follow to keep a man interested-total BS in my opinion! I don't like men that play games either so I guess between us we've met some of the worst! LOL
fortunately for me,I've started listening to my gut more because what seems like a loser is often dead right!